There are so many sublte things which we are not brought up or to understand to be sensitive about…Maybe that's what called culture difference…Its sad that relationships break but we don't take these small things into account…
Ria and Yash have been really good friends…and their friendship would have lasted for long…had these small and subtle things which are never registered, are taken care of…
Ria and Yash were working together in office…they were pretty compensating to each other professionally. Both were happy with their individual lives…
They use to come back home together as Ria use to take her car…and they stayed nearby…
While coming back Yash always use to make fun of her driving…her car etc…which she took lightly earlier but she always failed to understand that how can someone make fun of a favour done to him. It wasn't a service provided…also it wasn't a great favour that friends should acknowledge or thank but atleast shudnt be ingrate by making fun….
One day Ria got stuck in traffic, her car had gone for servicing…she called up Yash and asked him how to get to the office as she was not able to get a rickshaw…he asked her to take a train…she told him about her discomfort with trains…she said she would try to get a bus…she got one which dropped her somewhere in the middle of the road….she just coudnt make it…she called up again….again Yash asked her to come to the station and catch a train….she said she cannot take a train…it would be better to go home instead…she said she would try for a rickshaw again for sometime and she was kind of stranded on the road….finally she walked for sometime and went to the station that was the only way to infact even to go home…but found everything very confusing…called up Yash again, he had just passed that station…she asked him to get one station back…he told her that's not possible….she told him its difficult for her and she has to go home otherwise…he simply asked her to go home…
It was a very small thing for Yash, what the heck could be a problem to get a train…why should he go out of the way for just getting a train……
Ria was angry….in a middle of a problem when she asked help…Yash was showing attitude..instead of helping her…and it wasn't a help as such it was just the comfort level…
Are these issues worth breaking up a good freindship?
Friday, October 17, 2008
Sunday, September 21, 2008
Dancing Wu Li Masters
Another book I would recommend to read...thoery of relativity at its kindergarten level...
Some extracts which I liked...
There has always been a fight between the mind and heart. We can substitute heart as a small frame of reference where the some rules fit in but they might not be universal normally they are not, it expects some results. and mind as real world where the frame of reference or perspective is much larger or universal.
The general theory of relativity shows us that our hearts follow different rules than the real world does. A heart based on impressions that it receives from its limited perspective, forms structures which thereafter determine what it further will and will not accept freely. >From that point on, regardless of how the real world actually operates, this heart, following its self imposed rules tries to superimpose on the real world its own version of what must be.
This continues until the mind cries out (beginners mind) “this is not right” what must be is not happening I have tried and tried to discover why this is so….i have strected my imagination to the maximum limit to preserve my belief in what must be. The breaking point has come. Now I have no choice but to admit the must I have believed in, does not come from the real world but from my own head.
The view presented here is that idealizations abstracted from experience from a rigid structure of such durability that, when subsequent sensory experience contradicts it, we quetion the validity of the sensory data rather than the validity of the idealized abstractions. Once such a set of idealized abstractions is erected (verified) in the mind, we thereafter superimpose it upon all subsequent actual and projected sence data(upon the entire universe was we picture it according to this set of abstractions)whether it fits or not.
So does that mean when u are stuck up in life all u need to do start from the first and accept things as naked as they are. This is theoretically simpler way, another way would be broaden ur frame of perspective…..
But in both these procedures one things which remains constant is no matter what the heart aches…..whats right and whats wrong doesn’t reduce ur pain.
Some extracts which I liked...
There has always been a fight between the mind and heart. We can substitute heart as a small frame of reference where the some rules fit in but they might not be universal normally they are not, it expects some results. and mind as real world where the frame of reference or perspective is much larger or universal.
The general theory of relativity shows us that our hearts follow different rules than the real world does. A heart based on impressions that it receives from its limited perspective, forms structures which thereafter determine what it further will and will not accept freely. >From that point on, regardless of how the real world actually operates, this heart, following its self imposed rules tries to superimpose on the real world its own version of what must be.
This continues until the mind cries out (beginners mind) “this is not right” what must be is not happening I have tried and tried to discover why this is so….i have strected my imagination to the maximum limit to preserve my belief in what must be. The breaking point has come. Now I have no choice but to admit the must I have believed in, does not come from the real world but from my own head.
The view presented here is that idealizations abstracted from experience from a rigid structure of such durability that, when subsequent sensory experience contradicts it, we quetion the validity of the sensory data rather than the validity of the idealized abstractions. Once such a set of idealized abstractions is erected (verified) in the mind, we thereafter superimpose it upon all subsequent actual and projected sence data(upon the entire universe was we picture it according to this set of abstractions)whether it fits or not.
So does that mean when u are stuck up in life all u need to do start from the first and accept things as naked as they are. This is theoretically simpler way, another way would be broaden ur frame of perspective…..
But in both these procedures one things which remains constant is no matter what the heart aches…..whats right and whats wrong doesn’t reduce ur pain.
Food for Thought
This is an extract from the book A short history about everything by bill bryson.I thought it is really good food for thought.
Life is an odd thing it coudnt wait to get going,having got going, it seemed to a very little hurry to move on.
Lichens are just about the hardiest visible organism on Earth, but among the least ambitious.They will grow happily enough in a sunny churchyard but they particularly thrive in environments where no other organisms would go--on blowy mountaintops anmd Arctic wastes, wherever there is little but rocks and rain and cold and alomost no compitition. In arears of Antarctica where virtually nothing else will grow, you will find vast expanses of lichens - 400 types of them - adhering devotedly to every wind whipped rock..bare rock without evident nourishment or the production of seeds.
Its functioning is interesting its a partnership between fungi and algai fungi excrete acid which dissolve the surface of the rock freeing minerals that the algae convert into food sufficient to sustain both.Like most things taht thrive in harsh environments lichens are slow growing - 50 yr old wold be of a shirt button size, the size of dinner plates they might attain in some hundreds of years It would be hard to imagine a less fulfilling existence.
David Attenborough "they simply Exist testifying to the moving fact that life even at its simplest level occurs apparently, just for its own sake."it is easy to overlook this thought that life just is.
As humans we are inclined to feel that life must have a point We have plans and aspirations and desires.we want to take constant advantage of all the intoxicating existence we've been endowed with. But whats life to a lichen?yet its impulse to exist, to be, is every strong bit as strong as ours-arguably even stronger.If i were told that i had to spend decades being a furry growth on a rock in the woods, i believe i would lose the will to go on.Lichens dont like virtually all living things, they will suffer any hardship,endure any insult,for a moment's additional existence.Life in short just wants to be. But- for the most part it doesnt want to be much.Looking at the age of 4500 millions years of eartg life has had plenty of time to develop ambitions, but life has been a very recent thing.
A note of gloom --> there is one another extremely pertinent quality about life on Earth :it goes extinct. Quite regularly.For all the trouble they take to assemble and perserve themselves, species crumple and and die remarbly routinely.And the more complex they get, the more quickly they appear to go extinct.Which is perhaps one reason why so much of life isnt terribly ambitious.
Extinction is always a bad news for victims,bit it appears to be a good thing for a dynamic planet."the alternative to extinction is stagnation and stagnation is seldom a good thing in any realm."
IAN Tattersall
To conclude
Life wants to be
Life doesnt want to be much
Life goes extinct
and
Life goes on.
Life is an odd thing it coudnt wait to get going,having got going, it seemed to a very little hurry to move on.
Lichens are just about the hardiest visible organism on Earth, but among the least ambitious.They will grow happily enough in a sunny churchyard but they particularly thrive in environments where no other organisms would go--on blowy mountaintops anmd Arctic wastes, wherever there is little but rocks and rain and cold and alomost no compitition. In arears of Antarctica where virtually nothing else will grow, you will find vast expanses of lichens - 400 types of them - adhering devotedly to every wind whipped rock..bare rock without evident nourishment or the production of seeds.
Its functioning is interesting its a partnership between fungi and algai fungi excrete acid which dissolve the surface of the rock freeing minerals that the algae convert into food sufficient to sustain both.Like most things taht thrive in harsh environments lichens are slow growing - 50 yr old wold be of a shirt button size, the size of dinner plates they might attain in some hundreds of years It would be hard to imagine a less fulfilling existence.
David Attenborough "they simply Exist testifying to the moving fact that life even at its simplest level occurs apparently, just for its own sake."it is easy to overlook this thought that life just is.
As humans we are inclined to feel that life must have a point We have plans and aspirations and desires.we want to take constant advantage of all the intoxicating existence we've been endowed with. But whats life to a lichen?yet its impulse to exist, to be, is every strong bit as strong as ours-arguably even stronger.If i were told that i had to spend decades being a furry growth on a rock in the woods, i believe i would lose the will to go on.Lichens dont like virtually all living things, they will suffer any hardship,endure any insult,for a moment's additional existence.Life in short just wants to be. But- for the most part it doesnt want to be much.Looking at the age of 4500 millions years of eartg life has had plenty of time to develop ambitions, but life has been a very recent thing.
A note of gloom --> there is one another extremely pertinent quality about life on Earth :it goes extinct. Quite regularly.For all the trouble they take to assemble and perserve themselves, species crumple and and die remarbly routinely.And the more complex they get, the more quickly they appear to go extinct.Which is perhaps one reason why so much of life isnt terribly ambitious.
Extinction is always a bad news for victims,bit it appears to be a good thing for a dynamic planet."the alternative to extinction is stagnation and stagnation is seldom a good thing in any realm."
IAN Tattersall
To conclude
Life wants to be
Life doesnt want to be much
Life goes extinct
and
Life goes on.
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